From Self-Abandonment To Self-Devotion
WILD MUSE
It’s easy to abandon ourselves – who we are, our wants, our desires, and how we want to live – in order to be liked by someone else, to be loved by someone else, or to fit in with someone else. In this pursuit of external validation, it’s easy to lose ourselves trying to be what others want us to be, thinking that will earn us love and acceptance. But in doing so we self-sacrifice our happiness, desires and identity, without even knowing, which can lead to resentment because in trying to please others, our needs and desires are not met. The biggest flex is saying yes to yourself, and feel that energy shift – into power, purpose and passion.
What if the love and acceptance you’ve been seeking from others is actually meant to begin with you?
It’s so easy to drift away from ourselves –
to quiet our desires, downplay our truth, and shapeshift just enough to be accepted.
To be liked. To be loved.
We learn to edit ourselves, to trade authenticity for approval.
And slowly, without noticing, we disconnect from who we really are.
From what we want. From how we truly want to live.
In the name of connection, we sacrifice ourselves.
And in that sacrifice, we start to feel resentful – not just toward others, but toward the versions of us we abandoned along the way.
But here’s the truth:
You don’t have to earn love by disappearing.
Your desires are valid.
Your truth is sacred.
Your presence is enough.
The real flex? Saying yes to yourself.
Feeling the shift that happens when you stop seeking permission and start living in alignment – with your power, your purpose, your passion.
That’s not selfish.
That’s sovereignty.
That’s what Be Her Now is – a call back to yourself, an invitation to stop dimming and start daring, to live as the most authentic version of you
Why Self-Love Hacks Don’t Break the Pattern
If you’ve tried self-care rituals, affirmations, or boundary scripts and still catch yourself putting others first, it’s not because you don’t try hard enough – it’s because self-abandonment is a pattern wired deep in your subconscious. From early on, you were conditioned to believe that being liked, agreeable, or “easy” made you worthy of love. Over time, that conditioning shaped your identity: “I’m someone who has to dim my light to be accepted.” No amount of surface-level self-love can undo that identity – which is why the cycle keeps repeating.
The missing piece isn’t another journal prompt or self-care Sunday. It’s an identity-level rebrand – shifting from abandoning yourself for approval to devoting yourself to your truth. Imagine moving from “I can only be loved if I quiet my desires” to “I’m a woman who honours her needs and trusts her voice.” From “I say yes to everyone else first” to “I trust myself enough to say yes to me.”
When you shift your identity, self-devotion stops being something you “try to remember” and becomes simply who you are. That’s the power of the Identity Rebrand Method™ and guides like Be Her Now – creating lasting sovereignty by aligning with your most authentic self.
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The Identity Rebrand™ Method: How Powerful Women Stop Shrinking and Start Leading
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